Was happy to read this story in ‘Indian Express’ that my wife had so kindly left open on my computer. It is about how a Muslim woman corporator took into her fold a old Namboodiri woman who was about to commit suicide and has looked after her since then, without making her embrace Islam. Lovely story.
This one is about a rich man who downsized to a 420 sq. feet apartment in New York. He says less is more. Stuff fills up the space that is there. Both chase each other without much meaning or purpose. I should know, living in a 4000 sq. feet house with just four people. Most shopping is mostly devoid of meaning and purpose. It fills an existential void in our lives and not needs. We do not probe its motivations enough. We do not want to lest it exposes uncomfortable truths that we cannot bear facing. There is peer pressure and curiously, there is also the fear of being considered ‘different’ by the group, if we acted according to our convictions, and hence being sidelined. The urge to belong is more powerful than living out one’s convictions.
This article about how boredom starts/sets in has many insightful observations that are worth pondering over:
Boredom has at its core the desiring of satisfying engagement but not being able to achieve that,” Eastwood said. “And attention is the cognitive process whereby we interface with both the external world and our internal thoughts and feelings. So it falls logically that attention must be at the core of the definition.”
When a task is so simple that it doesn’t require focused attention, he argues, we often can’t find a suitable point of engagement: We’re not expending enough effort to maintain our focus on the activity at hand, and have no other suitable point of engagement to compensate. On the other hand, trying to process an overwhelming environment with a limited amount of attention can also make us feel bored.
[My comment: As in big parties when there are too many conversations going on or in a big function like marriage, etc. Of course, my context is Indian marriage].
Research suggests that even simply taking note of the boredom-provoking conditions we’re in can offer some relief.
[My comment: Yes, becoming aware of a situation/problem is already a big step towards dealing with it, resolving it because implicit in the awareness is acceptance. Think about it].